Welcome to the

XO Relationship Assessment!

Think of this like a quick tune-up for your relationship. Just like a car runs best when aligned, your relationship thrives when you're in sync.

This short assessment will show where you stand — and whether you're on track, slightly off, or in need of a reset. You'll get a clear score and next steps from the XO Institute to help you stay strong or reconnect.

What is your current relationship status? *

Dating

Engaged

Married

Separated

Divorced (seeking reconcilitation)

How long have you been together? *

Less than 1 year

1 - 3 Years

4 - 7 Years

8 - 15 Years

More than 15 years

Do you and your partner currently live together? *

Yes

How to Take This Assessment

For each question, choose the answer that best describes your current experience. Be honest — there are no right or wrong answers.

Your responses will help you discover how aligned your relationship is and what next steps could strengthen it.

How would you describe the current state of your relationship? *

Very Unhealthy

Somewhat Unhealthy

Neutral

Somewhat Healthy

Very Healthy

How valued, appreciated, and respected do you feel in your relationship? *

Not At All

Very Little

Neutral

Somewhat

Very Much So

How safe do you feel sharing your thoughts, whether dreams or challenges, in the relationship? *

Not At All

Somewhat Unsafe

Neutral

Somewhat Safe

Very Safe

How strong is your friendship with your partner? *

Very Weak

Somewhat Weak

Neutral

Somewhat Strong

Very Strong

How well do you and your partner make decisions together? *

Not Well At All

Somewhat Poorly

Neutral

Fairly Well

Very Well

Do you believe you have a trusting relationship? *

Not At All Trusting

Somewhat Untrusting

Neutral

Somewhat Trusting

Very Trusting

Do you experience more positive or negative interactions in your relationship? *

Mostly Negative

More Negative than Positive

Even Mix

More Positive than Negative

Mostly Positive

Do you get stuck in conflict often or are you able to resolve it? *

Always Stuck

Often Stuck

Sometimes Resolved

Usually Resolved

Consistently Resolved

How much unresolved pain or baggage from the past is still affecting your relationship? *

A Lot

Quite A Bit

Some

A Little

None

Do you have a clear vision for your relationship and where you're heading? *

No Vision At All

A Vague Idea

Somewhat Clear

Mostly Clear

Very Clear

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